An Aussie View Of Relationships By Gabrielle Reilly - Bikini Supermodel, Political Coumnist and Celebrity

An Aussie View Of Relationships
By Gabrielle Reilly

American men and women have been sold a lifetime of "commercial dreams" of white weddings, fluffy feathered pillows, etc. They grow up to expect a fairy tale that evolves around a self-evolving superficial premise that only brings momentary happiness. The picture they have in their minds causes mental disharmony when it is not realized as an adult. I love American people and I have learnt many great things from Americans. I would love to share some thoughts from an Australian perspective on relationships. Think Foster’s ads.

Work hard not only for yourself but for others (your partner, etc.). This has a double benefit. It allows you to actually achieve a sense of accomplishment while giving you less time to dwell on all the things in life that are wrong.

Evaluate what brings you contentment and be financially wise. Getting back to nature and enjoying watching the sunset over the water, or singing with friends around a campfire, bring true contentment instead of that sickening feeling many people seem to experience when they shop almost compulsively. Although the experience of shopping does bring some satisfaction, it also brings financial stress. And financial stress brings an uncomfortable feeling. The smell of a new car wears off very quickly. Now, I am not suggesting that aspiring for nice things is bad; it is just recognizing that they are the icing on the cake and are good only for fleeting joy. To expect happiness to be achieved when one gets the new car, or new dress, or next shopping adventure... is like watching a dog chase its tail - it may brush it, but it will never actually get it.

Gabrielle Reilly -Bikini Supermodel, Political Columnist and Celbrity

Most Americans do not realize that creature comforts have become a prison sentence. I think about all the things my American friends won't do here unless the environment is "perfect." It drives me nuts that they are so restricted and miss out on so much of life. So you sweat a little; it's a bloody bug and yes, it bites, but get over it. No, the seat does not have triple-layer cushions for your derriere, but focus on this: Breathe in the fresh air and let it fill your body with joy; watch the spectacular sunset throw magnificent colors across the horizon; listen to the birds singing as the water gently laps against the pier. Make a conscious effort to turn down the air-conditioning and feel the heat a little so one is free from being so "soft"... never being weaned off dependency on creature comforts, missing out on many great wonders of the world…

See past looking for the Abercrombie clothes, the haircut, etc., and look to the heart of the person you are with, because more often than not the ones that are engrossed in the clothing are also engrossed in the superficial. They may not be the one that stands by your side through thick and thin. They may not be the one that steps up to the plate when the going is rough without blame, but with just a commitment to make it right. Determine a person’s sincerity by their actions and not their words.

But then the paradox once again. Again, like watching a dog chase its tail… sold this dream of having to have this great-looking partner and then you find a great-looking partner and they spend all their time being “great looking” but miss many of the more meaningful qualities such as being focused on the family, working hard, being considerate, compassionate, intelligent, etc. So it becomes shallow very quickly. Then you find the person that has all those qualities but does not have enough time or interest in dedicating himself/herself to being well groomed. In fact, after they get married many people do not take care of themselves and many women do not satisfy their husbands. My Grandmother taught me a very valuable lesson growing up: “Your husband will always have eyes; ensure you put your lipstick on and fix your hair before he gets home from work.” I am sure the feminists would have a field day with that one, but when they wake up and realize that the rules of life are not often fair but are still the rules of life, they can start flowing with the stream instead of trying to swim against the current.

Don't just be a product of your environment. Live effectively. Evaluate if your environment is the healthiest it can be and look for alternative ways to live in areas of your life that are not working. Society is paying the price now for feminism and commercialism. Many dreams are shattered and hearts broken.

The End.

BELIEF

Belief creates the actual fact.

- William James

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